People often ask me that: It outlines how young girls are being hyper-sexualized, while at the same time they're being taught that sex will ruin them at the very least, possibly even kill them. I'll leave you with this quote, and if you like it you should probably read this book: What Valenti points out in this book is that there's a lot of social confusion going on in the media - we know it's not okay to rape a woman, but we're also told that "boys will be boys" and Miley Cyrus is twerking on some lame-o singing about "blurred lines". It sounded uncomfortably economic: Confoundingly, if they don't use contraception, they may have an easier time obtaining an abortion which is difficult in itself than the morning-after pill.
Purity balls, Plan B and bad sex policy: inside America's virginity obsession
But some of the world-shattering aspects have since mellowed as the dust has settled. Any revenue generated from purchases made through the amazon. What's really interesting about them is when people started to complain, "Where are the mother-son purity balls? They're queer--they're the "other" in that way. So lesbian sex, or gay male sex for that matter, is wrong, impure, dirty, bad. This is [true] for much younger women I've spoken to who are like, "I don't really know all that much about feminism and I don't want someone to be like, what is it about? What ends up happening for a lot of these kids is that they've been taught that birth control is ineffective or birth control is dangerous so they don't use it.
The Purity Myth - Wikipedia
I discussed this in Singled Out:. Stephanie Harper February 23, Ideally I'd like to see this book studied and discussed in schools and universities to combat the dangers this age-group faces from the outset. Once the gates are opened, they can never be closed again, and the girl becomes "damaged goods" and effectively worthless. She actually makes a very good and compelling argument that the virginity pledge movement is simply another way for sexualizing young girls. But my weight has kept me from putting myself out there, seeing myself as someone that anyone could want, sexually or otherwise. This book outlines still further the paternalistic view that many have about women.
On the other side, an episode of the hit show Glee had the character of Holly Holiday tell two teenage girls they were prudes for being part of a celibacy club. Women get raped because someone raped them. Losing your virginity doesn't have to be perfect. Perhaps because she felt shamed by her lack of romantic relationship experience, she never revealed her name. If that is your choice, it's you choice.